If someone close to you has taken their life and you feel that speaking to others who have lost someone to suicide might help you, Angela and Tony, the group facilitators of the monthly Bereavement by Suicide Support Group are welcoming phone calls.

Due to Covid-19, the monthly support group has been temporarily put on hold, however not wanting to withhold the benefits that speaking with others can offer, this informal, friendly support is still available. This is not bereavement counselling but a safe, confidential, non-judgemental conversation with someone who is going through a similar experience as you. 

No matter how far you are down your own path, a phone call may help you, until the support group are able to meet together again, in person. 

When can I call?

Tony and Angela are offering calls, Monday - Friday 9am - 9pm, Tel: 07717 530 621. If the call isn’t answered immediately, please leave a voicemail with your name and number, and they will return your call as soon as possible.

Alternatively, send your name and number by email, as well as a convenient time to call and they will call you. 

Email to request a call back

How do we learn to live with bereavement by suicide?

Given the stigma and the taboo around the subject, one thing that can really help is talking to others who are in a similar situation. Talking has great value and can bring comfort. This telephone service hopes to create a place to talk safely, confidentially, openly and without judgement. No awkwardness, just comfortable talk about suicide. 

The group facilitators, Angela and Tony

Angela and Tony sit on the Blackburn with Darwen Suicide Prevention Strategy Group, their direct experience of loss through suicide, coupled with no local support groups that they could attend, prompted them to set up a support group for anyone living in or around the Lancashire area.

Angela Allen, Spring North

Angela lost her daughter to suicide last year. Angela is Chief Executive of Spring North, a charity that supports organisations to provide wellbeing for all across the North West.

Tony Harrison, PAPYRUS

Tony is from Darwen and lost his only child Vicky to suicide in 2010. Tony is a trustee of PAPYRUS - Prevention of Young Suicide, who exist to reduce the number of young people who take their own lives. Tony campaigns to raise awareness of suicide and to help shatter the myths and stigma through both local and national press and media.  

So, you’re bereaved by suicide, what do you do now? A question I asked myself. I’m still lost, still wondering why, still bewildered, still hurting, still cry, still grieving. I continue to ask myself, 'how could this happen?', I lost my only child to suicide in 2010, but it could just as easily have been last week. It isn’t something I will ever “get over” but, with help and support, I can learn to live with it, hopefully you can too. It’s tough, it hurts but we CAN learn to live with it.