If someone close to you has taken their life and you feel that speaking to others who have lost someone to suicide might help you, Angela Allen from the monthly Bereavement by Suicide Support Group is welcoming phone calls.

Due to Covid-19, the monthly support group has been temporarily put on hold, however not wanting to withhold the benefits that speaking with others can offer, this informal, friendly support is still available. This is not bereavement counseling but a safe, confidential, non-judgemental conversation with someone who is going through a similar experience as you. 

No matter how far you are down your own path, a phone call may help you, until the support group are able to meet together again, in person. 

When can I call?

Angela is offering calls Monday - Friday 9am - 9pm, Tel: 07717 530 621. If the call isn’t answered immediately, please leave a voicemail with your name and number, and she will return your call as soon as possible. Alternatively, send your name and number by email, as well as a convenient time for a call-back.

Email to request a call back

How do we learn to live with bereavement by suicide?

Given the stigma and the taboo around the subject, one thing that can really help is talking to others who are in a similar situation. Talking has great value and can bring comfort. This telephone service hopes to create a place to talk safely, confidentially, openly and without judgement. No awkwardness, just comfortable talk about suicide. 

Angela Allen, Spring North, Group Founder 

Angela lost her daughter to suicide, and sits on the Blackburn with Darwen Suicide Prevention Strategy Group. Her direct experience of loss through suicide, coupled with no local support groups, prompted Angela, together with the late Tony Harrison, to found a support group for anyone living around the Lancashire area. Angela is also Chief Executive of Spring North, a charity that supports organisations to provide wellbeing for all across the North West. 

In memory of Tony Harrison, Group Founder

Tony Harrison was a much-loved partner and friend to the Care Network team, and co-founder of this group. We were deeply saddened by the news of his death on 5 February 2021. Tony was an avid campaigner, he worked relentlessly to raise awareness of suicide and to help shatter the myths and stigma through both local and national press and media. 

Tony, from Darwen, lost his only child Vicky to suicide in 2010. Tony was also a trustee of PAPYRUS - Prevention of Young Suicide, which exists to reduce the number of young people who take their own lives. He is sorely missed.

Tony's words below, continue to provide hope for anyone who is bereaved by suicide, and we find that even from beyond the grave, he is steadfast in encouraging everyone who finds themself in this situation to access help and support. 

So, you’re bereaved by suicide, what do you do now? A question I asked myself. I’m still lost, still wondering why, still bewildered, still hurting, still cry, still grieving. I continue to ask myself, 'how could this happen?', I lost my only child to suicide in 2010, but it could just as easily have been last week. It isn’t something I will ever “get over” but, with help and support, I can learn to live with it, hopefully you can too. It’s tough, it hurts but we CAN learn to live with it.